I get invites on Facebook from people in my city to come to their shows. I also send invites on Facebook to people in my city to come to There Will Be Words. I try to show up to shows when someone I like is in them or running them. What I dislike the most is when you invite me to show after show and I come to show after show or I’m in show after show but yet you won’t come to any of my shows. Ever.
This is not just a local problem, I’m sure, and the only way we (my fellow organizers) can solve it is cutting these people off. If someone invites you to a show and never comes to yours, block their ability to invite you on Facebook. If they ask you to come to a show verbally, tell them no and explain why you won’t come (because you never come to mine when I ask). Only when they start coming to your events, then you can unblock their ability to invite you to shows and then go to theirs out of respect because they (finally) made the effort to come to your show. If the first paragraph describes you, cut the shit, seriously.